Me time....

I am happy to hear that there are a few people out there that are even reading my rambles! Thank you! .... Mainly as these are words to myself, and yet also I am putting these out there in case it resonates with someone else. Even one soul! As what the ripple effect (or butterfly effect) is - well you just don't know! I do appreciate every single one of you that reads whatever I put out there! Whether I hear from you or not, that's cool. Of course it's great if I do hear from you.

Anyways I want to thank the two souls who sent me a private message asking for me to tell them a bit more about me! Yet you were anonymous. I wonder why?! Anyways I did ponder this and hence decided to tell you more about myself. I found these 40 questions online, and thought to answer them, so that's one way you can know a little bit more about me....

1. What’s your philosophy in life?

"Live now" as nothing is permanent in life. We are constantly evolving. And if we are made up of these vibrating atoms it also highlights that we are energy, and energy is constantly in state of change. So no point in regrets, or expectations (to an extent) just be present to who you are moment to moment.

2. What’s the one thing you would like to change about yourself?

Interestingly I think I'm on the path to make that change. I want to be physically healthier and it's been an on and off journey for years (self worth probably being the main factor of that) but something finally kicked in at the start of this year (2017) and I believe I am on the way to achieving this! So I'm making this change.

3. Are you religious or spiritual?

101% spiritual. Not religious in any way. I believe in the religion of kindness, love and compassion.

4. Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert?

Most who know me might find this surprising, but I'm actually an introvert who can also be / present herself as an extrovert! I can hide this very very well! Around people I just have no resonance with I am an introvert. Around people where I do have a resonance with I am an extrovert.

5. Which parent are you closer to and why?

Hmm, I think it's equal. But if I had to pick one I would probably say my father, because my make-up - and who I look like the most - is him!

6. What was the best phase in your life?

It is honestly now! ... though if I had to pick some phase/time from the past then I would say it was my final year at university! I felt like that was the year I started to live truly from the heart! Or I first understood what that meant.

7. What was the worst phase in your life?

2009/2012. It was in this period of time, for reasons I won't go into, but I truly felt the depths of (what was to me) darkness and depression. But then it led me to finding out more about myself. Looking back I wouldn't change it for the world. And as they say, we truly only join the dots later.

8. Is what you’re doing now what you always wanted to do growing up?

In a strange way. YES. From a very young age I had always wanted to "create things". Back then it was more physical (product) design but post leaving my Masters this has moulded from physical product design & research into digital products and services.

9. What makes you feel accomplished?

When I set goals that I tick off. I guess it's "achieving" something. Plus I love learning! Hence I always have some sort of a goal!

10. What’s your favorite book/movie of all time and why did it speak to you so much?

Favourite movie has to be (still) the Ethan Hawke starer "Before Sunrise" (though the trilogy is good - "Before Sunset" and "Before Midnight"). I speak about it because it shows two strangers meeting on a train who decide to spend this one day together before they have to go their separate ways. It's a brilliant conversational movie which shows two souls connecting and slowly falling in love. The movie ends in a way that leaves it up to the viewer to make up their own minds of what happens next. The best thing about this movie trilogy is the first one was around 1995 and then in 2004 they made Before Sunset (which shows the story 9 years later) and then 2013 was "Before Midnight". Again with the same characters. With their lives 9 years further on! Of course the original stands out to me!

Closely followed is "Lost In Translation" - brilliant brilliant brilliant! Again its about souls connecting. In a way it shows that life is about the connections you have with the people around you.

Book wise it has to be the (probably a cliche) Paulo Coelho's collection (he's an amazing writer). The one that is very good is "The Alchemist" but for me it's "Veronika Decides to Die" - a story about Veronika who has everything going for her in her life, but decides to kill herself. I guess I liked this as it shows how the awareness of death encourages us to live more intensely! Very thought provoking.

11. What is a relationship deal breaker for you?

Lies (in any relationship). It's as simple as that. Though - even saying this - it's not a clear cut as this. This is a short simplified answer to this question. Nothing in life is every black or white.

12. Are you more into looks or brains?

As a Sapiosexual I'm all about the brain! Looks fade, and I've found that maybe you are pulled in initially by someone's appearance but that is not what will sustain over time. It's the soul and the brain that shines through and makes someone attractive or not. And equally someone not conventionally good-looking can appear to be the most attractive person in the world to me if they have - what to me is - a beautiful mind!

13. Would you ever take back someone who cheated?

Hmmmm. Honestly I don't know. Initial human response is no. But then many factors play out here! So not an easy one to answer.

14. How do you feel about sharing your password with your partner?

Again. I don't know. Ideally yes it's fine. But then I wouldn't ask for their password, so wouldn't want to be asked for mine. I guess the question is why do they feel the need to want the password?

15. When do you think a person is ready for marriage?

When ever they feel ready! To me marriage isn't the be all / end all! So it all depends on two people deciding what's right for them.

16. What kind of parent do you think you will be?

I know I'd be an awesome parent! Haha. BUT I am not interested in having my own children so it doesn't really matter. Now if kids came into my life (through whatever means) I know I'd be awesome, as I am good with kids.

17. What would you do if your parents didn’t like your partner?

What can I do? If I like them, that's what matters. I'd be disappointed but I wouldn't hold it against them. They are free to their own decisions.

18. Who is that one person you can talk to about just anything?

Not one but a couple of my closest soul connections / friends. They know who they are.

19. Do you usually stay friends with your exes? It has happened. Again I guess it depends on two people deciding how that relationships is going to evolve and if there is any point in maintaining any type of relationship. I am not one for creating unnecessary drama!

20. Have you ever lost someone close to you?

The closest people that I have lost has been my grandparents.

21. If you are in a bad mood, do you prefer to be left alone or have someone to cheer you up?

Left alone initially! It's so important for me to center myself again.

22. What’s an ideal weekend for you?

How do you answer this?! So many variations. As is this an ideal weekend with a partner? Or on my own?! As if it's just me! I'd probably take a flight somewhere for the weekend! And go and explore. If I'm homebound (London) then - let's assume it's summer - then it'd be walks around this beautiful city, visiting some museums / exhibitions to relaxing in a park reading, listening to music - and maybe visiting markets. Brunching and dinning in some unique spots! Exploration is the key word in this answer.

23. What do you think of best friends of the opposite sex?

Absolutely fine! It's about the soul connection, and not gender specific!

24. Do you judge a book by its cover?

Absolutely try not too!

25. Are you confrontational?

Nope! That's the last thing I am. Hate it when it gets to this point.

26. When was the last time you broke someone’s heart?

I hope I haven't. I try and be kind in my words even when I feel it may break someone's heart. How the other person responds is down to them.

27. Would you relocate for love?

Yes, I would.

28. Did you ever write a journal?

Yes.

29. What are you most thankful for?

Everything! ... Ok I'd say it is those soul connections that I know are beyond any rational 5th sensory thinking.

30. Do you believe in second chances?

Yes. Though again depends on many factors and the situation.

31. What’s the one thing that people always misunderstand about you?

Hmm, I'm not sure. Because honestly it doesn't matter. It's their misunderstanding not mine.

32. What is your idea of a perfect vacation?

This could vary on so many factors. Sometimes it's the busy city break. Other times it can be the secluded break. I guess a mixture of both. Start with the city and finish off in a meditative space, to allow the mind body and spirit to rest.

33. What did your past relationship teach you?

What unconditional love meant. I of course had no understanding of it at the time. But time revealed this to me (see, joining the dots later) was the biggest gift I got.

34. What are your thoughts on online dating or tinder?

Absolutely fine. It's a means to meet new souls, and especially as someone who wants to meet others on similar vibrations then it's a good way to do that. Now maybe not Tinder (because of the associated reputation of that site) other online dating sites.

35. What’s on your bucket list this year?

San Fransisco 😍 ... and it's happening!! < EXCITED! >

36. When have you felt your biggest adrenaline rush?

This happens whenever I am following my heart! This almost always happen when the plane is about to take off from home to anywhere!

37. What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done and would you do it again?

Flew to Mumbai for a weekend (2 nights / 3 days). And yes I'd do it again! Though maybe it was the time when I flew back in from a week in Mumbai into London, swapped my suitcase out, stayed overnight at Heathrow, and then flew to Las Vegas for a Drake concert (2 nights / 3 days again) before flying back to London. Have to say it was fun! And yes I would do that again! haha.

38. If a genie granted you 3 wishes right now, what would you wish for?

1. For the World to start to unite in love and kindness rather than divide with fear and hate - seriously hate the state of affairs currently!

2. To be financially secure for the rest of my human life! So that I can do work (what ever that is) that helps humanity and be of service!

3. 🤔🤔🤔 ... thinking ..... This has to be something for humanity - what - at this moment in time I don't know. All I know is that it wouldn't be a wish simply for myself.

39. What’s your biggest regret in life?

Thankfully I don't have a real regret. Probably because I believe that life is where you are, and you evolve moment to moment so whatever decision you made at the time was the right choice for then. Who you are now (as a person) might not make that same decision, but that's ok.

40. What do you think about when you’re by yourself?

What it means to be "human" ... and if I am truly being authentic to my soul and it's needs (and not what society expects from me).

So here you have it! I have already decided what I will blog about in June! I am off on another one of my travels in June and speaking to friends I have realised that I can give some pointers about travelling and ways to upgrade your flight! So look out for that one!